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Blinded by Denial
During a women's conference, I heard a speaker's testimonial about her abusive marriage. I trembled and cried
as I related to every detail of her experience. Her words confirmed my deepest fear--abuse also resided in my home.
Denial of the facts had protected me from facing difficult emotions for many years, but now the reality of abuse in my marriage surfaced. As confusion mixed with fear and sadness bombarded my heart, my rose colored glasses fell away and revealed the ruins of my life. Nobody would believe me if I shared my experiences. My husband, charismatic and successful, portrayed the image of the ideal man pictured in every woman's dreams.
What is Denial?
Denial, a common coping mechanism, protected me from pain. By ignoring the overwhelming evidence I'd seen in behaviors and scary experiences, I avoided difficult emotions. I could not face the shame of a failed marriage. While dysfunction was obvious to my children and others who truly had my best interests at heart, I created a false reality by pretending everything was fine. Before I married, one friend had warned me that my husband had anger issues.
I refused to accept the truth and dismissed her exhortation, swept off my feet by his flattery.
Cry for Help.
As guilt (common for victims) gripped my heart, I looked toward heaven. "God, what should I do? Will You help me?"
God Heard. God Answered.
In the midst of my desperation, God's still small voice pierced the silence.
"I see your troubles, and I feel your pain. Disappointment after disappointment dashed the high hopes you had for your marriage. I promise to shield your heart from fear and give you courage as you face the truth. With your veil of denial now lifted, My work to restore your soul can begin. No situation is too big for my power to change. I will make a way, even though right now there seems to be no way."
"As you begin this journey of recovery, I will blanket you with My love and tender care. Trust Me to lead you on a new path
to heal your brokenness and rebuild your life. As you turn your focus from your daily troubles toward Me, I will guide you.
For I know the plans I have for you--plans for a good future filled with hope. So, take My hand precious daughter. With Me at your side as your strong foundation, you will soon thrive."
Seek God with All Your Heart
Has your heart quickened reading this blog? Who has broken your heart? What are the circumstances and problems you've endured? What resources could provide support as you face the harsh possibility of abuse in your own life?
As you reach out to God for help, He promises to provide a lamp to your feet and a light for your path.
Starting today,
won't you please join me in seeking God's answers as you take baby-steps forward? Nothing is too difficult for Him.
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